Here's something I have a problem with.  Flicking the switch from being "mom" to being a sexual woman.  I'm specifically not saying wife as being wife includes quite a bit of mothering anyway.

Here's the scenario.  We are driving back from a place 2 hours away.  I have three tired boys.  Three crying boys.  Three boys draining every ounce of patients and energy I have.  Three boys who need me to be patient, keep them entertained and be willing to tell them how many 7de Lane before we get home (7de Laan is a local soapy.  The boys love it.  Watch it almost every night.  And it is 30 minutes long. We use that as a frame of reference)  So by the time we get home, I have told them a zillion times, that it is x-amount of 7de Lane.  Home doesn't come soon enough and I'm sure it took more 7de Lane than I said.  I start dinner, while feeding Zander and making the boys milo to drink.  Tommie is on the porch, smoking.  He comes in, touches my butt and makes suggestive moves. I'm like - WHAT THE F*ck.  Rather channel your energy towards helping out dammit!!!

I think us women (and hey, I might be totally wrong since I have a totally warped idea of sexuality) are mothers or nurturers first.  That is our main personality.  We need to switch it off before we can be a sensual woman.  Where as a man is firstly a sexual being.  He actually needs to switch that part of himself "off" to be a dad.

There in lies my problem.  When I am busy dressing my baby and bending over to pick up the cream that has fallen off the dresses yet again, I do not feel sexual, do not think of sex.  To him though...yeah, that's definitely a sign!?

No wonder relationships go through such a tough time once there are kids involved.  Women grow into a new person.  Learn new sides of their personality. 

Men just stay the same.