I truly think this is the truth.  Good girls just never win.  They always end up living average lives, with average men, earning average income.  They mostly don't take chances.  Good girls study hard, don't socialize much and end marrying the guys that are "left over" (lol that just doesn't sound right)  They do the boring jobs.

What is my point here you might ask.  Well, see, last night Tommie told me that our friends (and I use that term lightly) just phoned to say they are on their way to New Zealand and Australia to see if they can immigrate.  Now this got me thinking.  It's actually the husband going to find a job.  His wife is tagging a long to shop.  Seeing this as only a vacation.  Let's look at her history:

• She was one of those girls at school that hardly studied and partied most of the time.
• At 'varsity she did a BA degree (one of the easiest degrees to get)
• She got a job on the mine through connections her dad had.  Good paying of course, helping her get better positions as the time passed.
• She had enough boyfriends but always went back to the guy who is now her husband.
• She had a daughter at a young age, not her husband's child, although he is raising her as his own.
• She finally decided to settle down with him and ever after getting married she cheated on him.
• She stopped working shortly after their marriage.
• They live in a mansion.  He earns loads of money.
• She basically  made a good life for herself by not paying much attention to school or work and focusing on getting the right husband.

Same with friend B.  She did not go through all the unfaithfulness of my previously mentioned friend, although she did the same type of thing.  Did not worry about studying much, just enough to pass.  Did an easy degree (probably just to meet guys at 'varsity lol).  Chose a great looking guy as a husband, who earns lots and lots.  Live in mansion.  Owns her own business but she's not involved in it too much.

Am I jealous?  Heck yes!  Don't get me wrong. I totally and completely love Tommie.  I'm not thinking I should not have married him. With the way my life went, I made the right decision to marry him.  However.  I should have studied less. Partied more.  Gone to 'varsity instead of studying my butt of after hours.  Met a hunk of a doctor type guy and married him.  Not having to worry about money, working and how I will afford 'varsity for my kids so that they can meet a girl who has a dad with loads of money.  Or by that time, my boys will have to look for a gorgeous girl with a great degree as they will end up being stay-at-home-dads.  Things are on the change right?

IT. IS. COLD.  Although I must admit that I am handling the cold better this year.  I actually look at the forecasts to see if more cold weather will be coming our way.  I cannot say why, as I normally detest winter.  I quite like it this year.  Here's two photos that I took in our yard this morning.

• School holidays have started.  Well the schools closed on Friday.  So far everyone is coping well with the holidays lol
• This is the holiday that I battle most with keeping the boys entertained. It is extremely busy at work, so I can't do things with them.  By the time we get home it's too cold to play outside.   So they get cabin fever.  Not good.
• Quintus has gone to work with Tommie.  Tomorrow Jason will.
• That way they don't get too much of each other and by the time we get home they have missed each other enough to have a good time.
• I have realized that Zander loves music.  When he fusses (if you can call it that) and I put on music, he calms right down and goes to sleep. 
• My hands are frozen.  Don't know how I'm going to complete the tax forms.  Wish all the forms were online, so that I wouldn't have to write!

I hope you all have a lovely warm and sunny Monday!

This morning I decided to join Tommie on his Sunday morning golf trip.  I haven't gone with in ages, first saying that I'm too far pregnant and then that Zander was too small.  I think I have run out of excuses.  Truth be told though, I do enjoy it every once in a while (like twice a year or less!)

The Sunday morning golf though turned into a whole day thing.  Especially since we met up with my in-laws in between for lunch.  Urgh, let's just say that I cannot handle anyone being rude to a waiter.  I was this close to getting up and walking out.

Anyway, my boys decided to go home with my in-laws.  Tommie and I (of course with little Zander) finished the last 9 holes.  It was fun.  Even though we had to wait at every hole for the players in front of us, it gave us a lot of chance to just relax and chat.

Zander amazes me.  Man he is such a good, calm baby.  Between feeds, naps and waking you won't hear a peep out of him. Except for the occasional laugh.  He is such an easy child.  I totally love how he will just start laughing at the smallest of things - a shadow, a moving leave.  So adorable. 

Here's some photos of our day.

We are having such a lovely calm and relaxing Saturday.  We obviously went to the Wimpy this morning and then for a little bit of shopping.  We got home and the boys and I did some finger painting.  Even Zander got into the action...  Can't start them too early right?  I've uploaded some pictures here.

Then Maggie and Michael brought us the books I ordered recently.  I'm so glad to have the books.  The one is a baby signs book and the others are Afrikaans books for the boys.  Most of our books are English, so it will be nice to have Afrikaans books. 

The best however is that the one is Haasdas se Nuuskas.  This is a story that came out just as we (meaning us South Africans) got TV.  I clearly remember the kids in the neighbourhood (we lived in a tiny tiny town) coming to our home to watch this story.  Everyone in the pj's, hair combed neatly.  This made such a big impact on all of us.  So it's great to be able to share that with my kids.

I love how different my boys are.  When we got the books, Jason immediately took them and paged through them.  That while Quintus sat with his Uncle Michael and watched rugby.  He is such a sports fanatic.

I've created a quiz.  If you want to see how well you know me, take it!  BTW you don't need to give a real e-mail address.  Just make one up.

I almost had heart failure this morning.  Tommie had already left to take Quintus to school. I was getting Jason and Zander ready.  We were just about to leave, when I heard the front door open.  Now for some idiotic reason, I froze.  One would think that I'd make a dash for the kitchen (real close to my bedroom) to at least get a knife or something to protect us with.  But no.  I just stand there.  Finally when I got enough guts to get moving and dash for the kitchen, I ran right into Tommie.  If I had a knife in my hand I might have stabbed him.  What a horrible feeling!  I immediately gave him a mouthful because he didn't greet as he came into the house, so that I would know that it's him.

That got me thinking (and my anxiety every night, when I wonder if that will be the night when someone breaks in - yes, I'm not well) that we really need to get an alarm system fitted in our home and put in more security gates.  Yes, build ourselves a little prison.  Must do that as soon as our finances allow us.

• It's Friday.  YEAH BABY.  I am so looking forward to the weekend. 
• I'm very extremely and totally worried about a dear friend of mine.  I'm here for you.  Together we can beat anything.
• I feel like going on a shopping spree.  I wanna buy lots of things.  Clothes, jewelry, things for my home.  Mmm...maybe I should just shop online but never go to the check-out counter.  Much better for our finances that are non-existent.  lol
• I had a whole big bag of chips yesterday.  Salt and Vinegar.  Hi...I'm Melany .... I cannot fight back against cravings .... If it wasn't at 9pm last night, I would have forced myself to go jogging lol  By this morning though I feel less guilty about it and won't mind a piece of chocolate cake!
• Yes, I'm not well
• We had a predicted temperature of -2 degrees Celsius this morning.  Was only 0 degrees.  Well, I suppose freezing is not bad.
• I'm hoping it will snow in the Drakensberg.  I wanna take my kids to play in the snow.  Okay okay *I* want to go play in the snow!