My middle child, Jason is acting out.  He is kicking us, hitting us (playfully but hard).  Making Power Ranger moves.  He talks loudly when Zander sleeps.  Bothers Zander when he is trying to nurse.  Tells us that he wants to break things.  Then say that he's not serious.  Doesn't want to eat.  Doesn't want to go to bed.

Do I think he is naughty.  Nope.  I do think that he is feeling left out.  Like he is not getting enough attention.  I do think that the more we tell him to be quiet around Zander, the more he is doing it for attention.

I do believe that this started when Zander was smaller and we would tell him to handle Zander softer.  We would forever tell him "Get out of his face"  "Stop kissing him on his lips"  "Don't pick him up"  "Don't hug him so tight"  All of this with reason of course, as it would get Zander crying.

On the other hand, Quintus (being older) would be more gentle in his approach.  Thus causing Zander to be less frightened of him.  (I'm sure that Jason's loud and strong attention is scary for a little guy)  Zander now easily smiles at Quintus.  Even staring at him, waiting for attention from his eldest brother.

This, I'm sure, hurts Jason even more.  Zander was his baby.  Right from when I fell pregnant, he was the one who would talk to my stomach.  He was the one that asked to listen to Zander's heart beat.  He was the one that stayed with me when Zander was born (rather than going of with his cousins)

Don't get me wrong though. I love the relationship Quintus is developing with Zander.  He is such a great older brother.  Always wiling to help out when it comes to Zander.  I just feel bad for Jay.  I am working on it and I know this too shall pass.